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The Book of Marriage
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كتاب النكاح


31
Chapter: Asking A Virgin For Permission With Regard To Marriage

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باب اسْتِئْذَانِ الْبِكْرِ فِي نَفْسِهَا ‏.‏

Sunan an-Nasa'i 3261

Umar bin Al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated: Hafsah bint 'Umar became single when (her husband) Khunais bin Hudhafah As-Sahmi (died). He was one of the Companions of the Prophet, and he died in Al-Madinah. Umar said: I went to 'Uthman bin 'Affan and offered Hafsah in marriage to him. I said: 'If you wish, I will marry you to Hafsah bint 'Umar.' He said: 'I will think about it.' A few days passed, then I met him and he said: 'It seems that I do not want to get married at the moment.' 'Umar said: Then I met Abu Bakr As-Siddiq, may Allah be pleased with him, and said: 'If you wish, I will marry Hafsah bint 'Umar to you.' Abu Bakr remained silent, and did not give me any answer, and I felt more upset with him than I had with 'Uthman. Several days passed, then the Messenger of Allah proposed marriage to her and I married her to him. Abu Bakr met me and said: 'Perhaps you felt upset with me when you offered Hafsah in marriage to me, and I did not give you any answer?' I said: 'Yes.' He said: 'Nothing prevented me from giving you an answer when you made the offer to me, except the fact that I had heard the Messenger of Allah speak of her, and I did not want to disclose the secret of the Messenger of Allah. If he had left her, then I would have married her.'


Grade: Sahih

عبداللہ بن عباس رضی الله عنہما سے روایت ہے کہ نبی اکرم ﷺ نے فرمایا: ”بیوہ اپنے ولی ( سر پرست ) کے بالمقابل اپنے ( رشتہ کے ) بارے میں فیصلہ کرنے کا زیادہ حق رکھتی ہے۔ اور «یتیمہ» یعنی کنواری لڑکی سے ( اس کی شادی کے لیے ) اس کی منظوری لی جائے گی اور اس کی منظوری ( پوچھے جانے پر ) اس کی خاموشی ہے“۔

Abdul-Allah bin Abbas ( (رضي الله تعالى عنه) a se riwayat hai ke Nabi-e-Akram (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) ne farmaya: "Bewah apne wali (sar-e-parast) ke balmukabil apne (rishta ke) bare mein faisla karne ka ziyada haq rakhati hai. Aur «yateema» yani kunwari ladki se (is ki shadi ke liye) is ki manzuri li jae gi aur is ki manzuri (poochhe jaane per) is ki khamoshi hai“.

أَخْبَرَنَا مَحْمُودُ بْنُ غَيْلاَنَ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو دَاوُدَ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا شُعْبَةُ، عَنْ مَالِكِ بْنِ أَنَسٍ، قَالَ سَمِعْتُهُ مِنْهُ، بَعْدَ مَوْتِ نَافِعٍ بِسَنَةٍ وَلَهُ يَوْمَئِذٍ حَلْقَةٌ قَالَ أَخْبَرَنِي عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ الْفَضْلِ عَنْ نَافِعِ بْنِ جُبَيْرٍ عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ‏"‏ الأَيِّمُ أَحَقُّ بِنَفْسِهَا مِنْ وَلِيِّهَا وَالْيَتِيمَةُ تُسْتَأْمَرُ وَإِذْنُهَا صُمَاتُهَا ‏"‏ ‏.‏