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The Book of Prayer - Funerals

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كتاب الجنائز

Abdullah bin Umar (رضي الله تعالى عنه) narrated that Ummul Momineen Hafsa (رضي الله تعالى عنها) wept for Umar (رضي الله تعالى عنه). Umar (رضي الله تعالى عنه) said, ‘be quiet my daughter. Don't you know that the Apostle of Allah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) had said, ‘the deceased is punished because of his family's weeping over the death’?

Umar(رضي الله تعالى عنه) narrated that the Apostle of Allah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) said, ‘the dead is punished in the grave because of wailing on him/her’.

This Hadith is narrated on the authority of Umar (رضي الله تعالی عنہ) through another chain of transmitters.

Ibn Umar (رضي الله تعالى عنه) narrated that when Umar (رضي الله تعالى عنه) was wounded, he fainted, and there was a loud lamentation over him. When he regained consciousness he said, didn't you know that the Apostle of Allah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) said, ‘the dead is punished because of the weeping of the living’?

Abu Burda (رضي الله تعالى عنه) narrated on the authority of his father that when Umar ( رضي الله تعالیعنہ) was wounded Suhaib (رضي الله تعالى عنه) uttered (loudly in lamentation), O brother. Upon this Umar (رضي الله تعالى عنه) said, Suhaib (رضي الله تعالى عنه), did you not know that the Apostle of Allah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) said, ‘the dead is punished because of the lamentation of the living’?

Abu Musa (رضي الله تعالى عنه) narrated that when Umar (رضي الله تعالى عنه) was wounded, there came Suhaib (رضي الله تعالى عنه) from his house and went to Umar (رضي الله تعالى عنه) and stood by his side, and began to wail. Upon this Umar said, ‘what are you weeping for? Are you weeping for me? He said, ‘by Allah, it is for you that I weep, ‘O Commander of the believers’. He said, ‘by Allah, you already know that the Apostle of Allah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) had said, ‘he who is lamented upon is punished. I made a mention of it to Musa bin Talha, and he said that Ummul Momineen A'isha (رضي الله تعالى عنها) told that it concerned with Jews (only).

Anas (رضي الله تعالى عنه) narrated that when Umar bin Khattab (رضي الله تعالى عنه) was wounded, Ummul Momineen Hafsa (رضي الله تعالى عنها) lamented for him. Upon this he said, ‘O Hafsa, did you not hear the Apostle of Allah ( صلى ہللا عليه و آلهوسلم) saying, ‘one who is lamented would be punished’? Suhaib (رضي الله تعالى عنه) also lamented over him. Umar (رضي الله تعالى عنه) told him also, ‘O Suhaib (رضي الله تعالى عنه), didn't you know that one who is lamented is punished?

Abdullah bin Abu Mulaika narrated that he was sitting by the side of Ibn Umar ( رضي الله تعالیعنہ), and we were waiting for the bier of Umm Aban (رضي الله تعالى عنها), daughter of Uthman (رضي الله تعالى عنه), and there was also Amr bin 'Uthman. In the meanwhile, there came Ibn Abbas (رضي الله تعالى عنه) led by a guide. I conceive that he was informed of the place of Ibn Umar ( رضئہللا تعالی عنہ). So, he came till he sat by my side. While I was between them (Ibn Abbas and Ibn Umar - (رضي الله تعالی عنہما)) there came the noise (of wailing) from the house. Upon this Ibn Umar (رضي الله تعالى عنه) said (that is, he pointed out to Amr that he should stand and forbid them, for), ‘I heard the Apostle of Allah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) as saying, ‘the dead is punished because of the lamentation of his family. Abdullah made it general (what was said for a particular occasion). Ibn Abbas (رضي الله تعالی عنہ) said, ‘when we were with the Commander of the believers, Umar bin Khattab (رضي الله تعالى عنه), we reached Baida', and there was a man under the shadow of the tree. He said to me, ‘go and inform me who is that person. So, I went and (found) that he was Suhaib (رضي الله تعالى عنه). I returned to him and said, ‘you commanded me to find out for you who that was, and he is Suhaib (رضي الله تعالى عنه). He (Umar رضي الله تعالی عنہ) said, ‘ask him to see us’. I said, ‘he has family along with him. He said, ‘even if he has family along with him. So, he (the narrator) told him to see (the commander of the believers and his party). When we came (to Madina), it was before long that the commander of the believers was wounded, and Suhaib (رضي الله تعالى عنه) came weeping and crying: Alas for the brother, alas for the companion. Upon this Umar (رضي الله تعالى عنه) said, didn't you know, or didn't you hear, that the Apostle of Allah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) said, ‘the dead is punished because of the lamentation of his family’? Then Abdullah made it general and Umar (رضي الله تعالى عنه) told it of certain occasions. So, I (Abdullah bin Abu Mulaika) stood up and went to Ummul Momineen A'isha (رضي الله تعالى عنها) and told her what Ibn Umar (رضي الله تعالى عنه) had said. Upon this she said: I swear by Allah that Allah's Apostle (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) never said that dead would be punished because of his family's lamenting (for him). What he said was that Allah would increase the punishment of the unbeliever because of his family's lamenting for him. Verily it is Allah Who has caused laughter and weeping. No bearer of a burden will bear another's burden. Ibn Abu Mulaika said that al-Qasim bin Muhammad said that when the words of Umar and Ibn Umar (رضي الله تعال ی عنہما) were conveyed to Ummul Momineen A'isha (رضي الله تعالى عنها), she said, ‘you have narrated it to me from those who are neither liar nor those suspected of lying but (sometimes) hearing misleads.

Abdullah bin Abu Mulaika narrated that the daughter of Uthman bin Affan (رضي الله تعالى عنه) died in Makka. We came to attend her (funeral). Ibn Umar and Ibn Abbas (رضي الله تعالی عنہما) were also present there, and I was sitting between them. He added. ‘I (first sat) by the side of one of them, then the other one came, and he sat by my side. Abdullah bin Umar (رضي الله تعالى عنه) said to Amr bin Uthman who was sitting opposite to him, ‘will you not prevent the people from lamenting, for the Apostle of Allah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) had said, ‘the dead is punished because of the lamenting of his family for him’? Ibn Abbas (رضي الله تعالى عنه) then said that Umar ( رضئہللا تعالی عنہ) used to say something of that nature, and then narrated, ‘I proceeded from Makka along with 'Umar (رضي الله تعالى عنه) till we reached al-Baida' and there was a party of riders under the shade of a tree. He said (to me), ‘go and find out who this party is. I cast a glance and there was Suhaib (رضي الله تعالى عنه) (in that party). So, I informed him (Umar رضي الله تعالى عنه) about it. He said, call him to me. So, I went back to Suhaib (رضي الله تعالى عنه) and said, go and meet the Commander of the believers. When Umar (رضي الله تعالى عنه) was wounded, Suhaib ( رضي الله تعالیعنہ) came wailing, ‘alas, for the brother! alas for the companion! Umar (رضي الله تعالى عنه) said, ‘O Suhaib (رضي الله تعالى عنه), do you wail for me, whereas the Apostle of Allah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) said, ‘the dead would be punished on account of the lamentation of the (members of his family)’? Ibn Abbas (رضي الله تعالى عنه) said, ‘when 'Umar died I made a mention of it to Ummul Momineen A'isha (رضي الله تعالى عنها). She said, ‘may Allah have mercy upon Umar ( رضي الله تعالیعنہ) I swear by Allah that Allah's Apostle (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) never said that Allah would punish the believer because of the weeping (of any one of the members of his family), but he said that Allah would increase the punishment of the unbeliever because of the weeping of his family over him. Ummul Momineen A'isha (رضي الله تعالى عنها) said, ‘the Qur'an is enough for you (when it states) َ ىَ أُخْرْ رَ ةٌ وِزِ رِ رُ وَازوَالَ تَز [No bearer of burden will bear another's burden]. (Fatir - 18). Thereupon Ibn Abbas (رضي الله تعالى عنه) said, Allah is He Who has caused laughter and weeping. Ibn Abu Mulaika said, ‘by Allah, Ibn Umar (رضي الله تعالى عنه) said nothing.

Amr reported on the authority of Ibn Abu Mulaika, ‘we were with the bier of Umm Aban ( رضئہللا تعالی عنہا), daughter of Uthman (رضي الله تعالى عنه), and the rest of the Hadith is the same, but he did not narrate it as a marfu' Hadith on the authority of Umar ( رضي الله تعالى عنه) from the Apostle of Allah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) as it was narrated by Ayyub and Ibn Juraij, and the Hadith narrated by them (Ayyub and Ibn Juraij) is more complete than that of Amr.

Abdullah bin Umar (رضي الله تعالى عنه) narrated that the Apostle of Allah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) said, ‘the dead is punished because of the lamentation of the living.

Hisham bin 'Urwa narrated on the authority of his father that the saying of Ibn Umar ( رضي الله تعالى عنه) that ‘the dead would be punished because of the lamentation of his family over him’ was mentioned to Ummul Momineen A'isha (رضي الله تعالى عنها). Upon this she said, ‘may Allah have mercy upon Abu Abdur Rahman (the kunya of Ibn 'Umar رضي الله تعالی عنہ) that he heard something but could not retain it (well). (The fact is) that the bier of a Jew passed before the Apostle of Allah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) and (the members of his family) were wailing over him. Upon this he said, ‘you are wailing, and he is being punished.

Hisham narrated on the authority of his father that it was mentioned to Ummul Momineen A'isha (رضي الله تعالی عنہا) that Ibn 'Umar (رضي الله تعالی عنہ) had narrated as marfu' Hadith from the Apostle of Allah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) that the dead would be punished in the grave because of the lamentation of his family for him. Upon this she said, Ibn 'Umar (رضي الله تعالى عنه) missed (the point). The Apostle of Allah (r) had (in fact) said, he (the dead) is punished for his faults or for his sins, and the members of his family are wailing for him now. (This misunderstanding of Ibn Umar (رضي الله تعالى عنه) is similar to his saying), ‘the Apostle of Allah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) stood by the well in which were lying the dead bodies of those polytheists who had been killed on the Day of Badr, and he said to them what he had to say, ie., ‘they hear what I say. But he (Ibn 'Umar ) misunderstood. The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) had only said, they (the dead) understand that what I used to say to them was truth. She then recited - ْ تَىإِنَّكَ الَ تُسْمِعُ الْمَو [Certainly, you cannot make the dead hear the call]. (An-Naml - 80), and - وَمَا أَنْتَ بِمُسْمِعٍ مَنْ فِي ِالْقُبُور [nor can you make those hear who are in the graves] (Fater – 22). He said, meaning, when they had taken their seats in Hell.

This Hadith has been narrated by Ibn 'Urwa with the same chain of transmitters. However, the Hadith narrated by Abu Usama is more complete.

. Amra daughter of Abdur Rahman narrated that she heard (from) Ummul Momineen A'isha (رضي الله تعالى عنها) and made a mention to her about Abdullah bin Umar as saying, ‘the dead is punished because of the lamentation of the living. Upon this Ummul Momineen A'isha ( رضي الله تعالى عنها) said, ‘may Allah have mercy upon the father of Abdur Rahman. He did not tell a lie, but he forgot or made a mistake. The Apostle of Allah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) happened to pass by a (dead) Jew woman who was being lamented. Upon this he said, ‘they weep over her and she is being punished in the grave.

Ali bin Rabi'a reported that the first one who was lamented upon in Kufa was Qaraza bin Ka'b. Mughira bin Shu'ba (رضي الله تعالى عنه) said, ‘I heard the Apostle of Allah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) saying, ‘he who is lamented upon would be punished because of the lamentation for him on the Day of judgment.

A similar Hadith has been narrated by Mughira bin Shu'ba (رضي الله تعالى عنه) from the Apostle of Allah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم).

This Hadith has been narrated from the Apostle of Allah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) through another chain of transmitters.