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Book of Etiquette
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كِتَابُ الْأَدَبِ



1
What was mentioned about gentleness and calmness
‌مَا ذُكِرَ فِي الرِّفْقِ وَالتُّؤَدَةِ
2
What was mentioned about good character and the dislike of foul language
‌مَا ذُكِرَ فِي حُسْنِ الْخُلُقِ وَكَرَاهِيَةِ الْفُحْشِ
3
What was mentioned about modesty and what was said about it
‌مَا ذُكِرَ فِي الْحَيَاءِ وَمَا جَاءَ فِيهِ
4
What was mentioned about the reward for mercy
‌مَا ذُكِرَ فِي الرَّحْمَةِ مِنَ الثَّوَابِ
5
What is not appropriate in abandoning one's brother
‌مَا لَا يَنْبَغِي مِنْ هِجْرَانِ الرَّجُلِ أَخَاهُ
6
What was mentioned about anger and what people say about it
‌مَا ذُكِرَ فِي الْغَضَبِ مِمَّا يَقُولُهُ النَّاسُ
7
What they said about kindness and maintaining family ties
‌مَا قَالُوا فِي الْبِرِّ وَصِلَةِ الرَّحِمِ
8
What was mentioned about honoring parents
‌مَا ذُكِرَ فِي بِرِّ الْوَالِدَيْنِ
9
What was said about a child's rights over his father
‌مَا جَاءَ فِي حَقِّ الْوَلَدِ عَلَى وَالِدِهِ
10
What was said about the rights of neighbors
‌مَا جَاءَ فِي حَقِّ الْجُوَارِ
11
What was said about doing good deeds
‌مَا جَاءَ فِي اصْطِنَاعِ الْمَعْرُوفِ
12
Regarding compassion towards daughters
‌فِي الْعَطْفِ عَلَى الْبَنَاتِ
13
What they said about taking a mid-morning nap and what was mentioned about it
‌مَا قَالُوا فِي التَّصَبُّحِ نَوْمَةَ الضُّحَى وَمَا جَاءَ فِيهَا
14
Who permitted taking a mid-morning nap
‌مَنْ رَخَّصَ فِي التَّصَبُّحِ
15
Regarding a man disciplining his wife
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يُؤَدِّبُ امْرَأَتَهُ
16
What was said about a two-faced person
‌مَا جَاءَ فِي ذِي الْوَجْهَيْنِ
17
How a man should blow his nose and with which hand
‌كَيْفَ يَتَمَخَّطُ الرَّجُلُ وَبِأَيِّ يَدَيْهِ
18
What they said about a man having more right to the front of his mount and his bed
‌مَا قَالُوا فِي: الرَّجُلِ أَحَقُّ بِصَدْرِ دَابَّتِهِ وَفِرَاشِهِ
19
Who did not trim his mustache completely
‌مَنْ كَانَ لَا يُحْفِي شَارِبَهُ
20
What they said about trimming the beard
‌مَا قَالُوا فِي الْأَخْذِ مِنَ اللِّحْيَةِ
21
What they said about sharpening (throwing) stones
‌مَا قَالُوا فِي التَّحْذِيفِ
22
What a man is commanded regarding growing the beard and trimming the mustache
‌مَا يُؤْمَرُ بِهِ الرَّجُلُ مِنْ إِعْفَاءِ اللِّحْيَةِ، وَالْأَخْذِ مِنَ الشَّارِبِ
23
Regarding a man sitting and placing one leg over the other
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يَجْلِسُ وَيَجْعَلُ إِحْدَى رِجْلَيْهِ عَلَى الْأُخْرَى
24
Who disliked placing one leg over the other
‌مَنْ كَرِهَ أَنْ يَضَعَ إِحْدَى رِجْلَيْهِ عَلَى الْأُخْرَى
25
What a man is commanded regarding his sitting posture
‌مَا يُؤْمَرُ بِهِ الرَّجُلُ فِي مَجْلِسِهِ
26
Regarding a man taking something from another man, who said: Show it to him
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يَأْخُذُ عَنِ الرَّجُلِ الشَّيْءَ، مَنْ قَالَ: يُرِيهِ
27
What they said about slander, backbiting, and defamation
‌مَا قَالُوا فِي النَّهْيِ وَالْوَقِيعَةِ فِي الرَّجُلِ وَالْغِيبَةِ
28
Regarding a man combing with an ivory comb and applying oil with ivory
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يَمْتَشِطُ بِالْمُشْطِ الْعَاجِ وَيَدَّهِنُ بِالْعَاجِ
29
Regarding using oil every day
‌فِي الدَّهْنِ كُلَّ يَوْمٍ
30
Regarding three people, where two talk privately excluding the third
‌فِي الثَّلَاثَةِ يَتَسَارُّ اثْنَانِ دُونَ الْآخَرِ
31
What a man is forbidden regarding displaying weapons in the mosque or unsheathing a sword
‌مَا نُهِيَ عَنْهُ الرَّجُلُ مِنْ إِظْهَارِ السِّلَاحِ فِي الْمَسْجِدِ وَتَعَاطِي السَّيْفِ مَسْلُولًا
32
Who disliked a man standing up for another man from his seat
‌مَنْ كَرِهَ قِيَامَ الرَّجُلِ لِلرَّجُلِ مِنْ مَجْلِسِهِ
33
Regarding a man standing up for another when he sees him
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يَقُومُ لِلرَّجُلِ إِذَا رَآهُ
34
A cushion being placed for a man
‌الْوِسَادَةُ تُطْرَحُ لِلرَّجُلِ
35
Who said: Take judgment from whomever you hear it
‌مَنْ قَالَ: خُذِ الْحُكْمَ مِمَّنْ سَمِعْتَهُ
36
Regarding a man being ordered to sit and socialize
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يُؤْمَرُ أَنْ يُجَالِسَ وَيُدَاخِلَ
37
Who said: If you enter a gathering, sit where they seat you
‌مَنْ قَالَ: إِذَا دَخَلْتَ عَلَى قَوْمٍ فَاجْلِسْ حَيْثُ يُجْلِسُونَكَ
38
A man walking while holding his garment in his hand
‌الرَّجُلُ يَمْشِي وَهُوَ مُخْتَصِرٌ
39
Who said: If a man tells you something in confidence, it is a trust
‌مَنْ قَالَ: إِذَا حَدَّثَ الرَّجُلُ بِالْحَدِيثِ فَقَالَ: اكْتُمْ عَلَيَّ، فَهُوَ أَمَانَةٌ
40
What was said about lying
‌مَا جَاءَ فِي الْكَذِبِ
41
What was mentioned as a sign of hypocrisy
‌مَا ذُكِرَ مِنْ عَلَامَةِ النِّفَاقِ
42
Who disliked a man telling everything he heard
‌مَنْ كَرِهَ لِلرَّجُلِ أَنْ يُحَدِّثَ بِكُلِّ مَا سَمِعَ
43
What they said about forbearance and what was mentioned about it
‌مَا قَالُوا فِي الْحِلْمِ وَمَا ذُكِرَ فِيهِ
44
Who said: Only tell a story to someone who wants to hear it
‌مَنْ قَالَ: لَا يُحَدِّثُ بِالْحَدِيثِ إِلَّا مَنْ يُرِيدُهُ
45
Regarding using antimony for the eyes
‌فِي الِاكْتِحَالِ بِالْإِثْمِدِ
46
Regarding kohl, how much in each eye, and who recommended it
‌فِي الْكُحْلِ، وَكَمْ فِي عَيْنٍ، وَمَنْ أَمَرَ بِهِ
47
Regarding a man helping another man with his stirrup
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يَأْخُذُ الرَّجُلُ بِرِكَابِهِ
48
Regarding the teaching of astrology, what was said about it
‌فِي تَعْلِيمِ النُّجُومِ مَا قَالُوا فِيهَا
49
Who used to teach them and correct their grammar
‌مَنْ كَانَ يُعَلِّمُهُمْ وَيَضْرِبُهُمْ عَلَى اللَّحْنِ
50
Who disliked saying: No, praise be to Allah
‌مَنْ كَرِهَ أَنْ يَقُولَ: لَا ، بِحَمْدِ اللَّهِ
51
What a man is commanded to do after cupping, cutting his hair, clipping his nails, or extracting a tooth
‌مَا يُؤْمَرُ بِهِ الرَّجُلُ إِذَا احْتَجَمَ، أَوْ أَخَذَ مِنْ شَعْرِهِ، أَوْ قَلَّمَ أَظْفَارَهُ، أَوْ قَلَعَ ضِرْسَهُ
52
Regarding a man sitting with another without his permission
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يَجْلِسُ إِلَى الرَّجُلِ قَبْلَ أَنْ يَسْتَأْذِنَهُ
53
Regarding seeking permission
‌فِي الِاسْتِئْذَانِ
54
Regarding how a man should respond to another man's greeting
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يَرُدُّ السَّلَامَ عَلَى الرَّجُلِ كَيْفَ يَرُدُّ عَلَيْهِ
55
Regarding a man conveying greetings to another, what he should say
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يُبَلِّغُ الرَّجُلَ السَّلَامَ مَا يَقُولُ لَهُ
56
Who disliked saying 'Peace be upon you' until he says 'Upon you all'
‌مَنْ كَانَ يَكْرَهُ إِذَا سَلَّمَ أَنْ يَقُولَ: السَّلَامُ عَلَيْكَ ، حَتَّى يَقُولَ: عَلَيْكُمْ
57
Regarding a man saying: Convey my greetings to so-and-so
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يَقُولُ: أَقْرِئْ فُلَانًا السَّلَامَ
58
Who disliked saying: 'Peace be upon you'
‌مَنْ كَانَ يَكْرَهُ أَنْ يَقُولَ: عَلَيْكَ السَّلَامُ
59
A man greeting another every time they meet
‌الرَّجُلُ يُسَلِّمُ عَلَى الرَّجُلِ كُلَّمَا لَقِيَهُ
60
Regarding shaking hands when greeting, who permitted it
‌فِي الْمُصَافَحَةِ عِنْدَ السَّلَامِ، مَنْ رَخَّصَ فِيهَا
61
Regarding shaking hands with non-Muslims, Christians, and Magians
‌فِي مُصَافَحَةِ غَيْرِ الْمُسْلِمِ مِنَ النَّصَارَى وَالْمَجُوسِ
62
Regarding embracing when two men meet
‌فِي الْمُعَانَقَةِ عِنْدَمَا يَلْتَقِي الرَّجُلَانِ
63
What they said about greeting a man while he is urinating
‌مَا قَالُوا فِي الرَّجُلِ يُسَلَّمُ عَلَيْهِ وَهُوَ يَبُولُ
64
What they said about spreading greetings
‌مَا قَالُوا فِي إِفْشَاءِ السَّلَامِ
65
Regarding whether to initiate greetings with people of the dhimma (non-Muslim citizens)
‌فِي أَهْلِ الذِّمَّةِ يُبْدَءُونَ بِالسَّلَامِ
66
Regarding who should initiate greetings
‌فِي الَّذِي يَبْدَأُ بِالسَّلَامِ
67
Regarding replying to the greeting of people of the dhimma
‌فِي رَدِّ السَّلَامِ عَلَى أَهْلِ الذِّمَّةِ
68
Regarding a man saying: 'May Allah give you life,' who disliked it until he added: 'with peace'
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يَقُولُ: حَيَّاكَ اللَّهُ، مَنْ كَرِهَهُ ، حَتَّى يَقُولَ: بِالسَّلَامِ
69
Regarding a man greeting another and signaling with his hand
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يُسَلِّمُ عَلَى الرَّجُلِ وَيُشِيرُ بِيَدِهِ
70
Regarding greeting children
‌فِي السَّلَامِ عَلَى الصِّبْيَانِ
71
Regarding greeting women
‌فِي السَّلَامِ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ
72
Who disliked saying: 'They claim'
‌مَنْ كَرِهَ أَنْ يَقُولَ: زَعَمُوا
73
Who permitted saying 'They claim'
‌مَنْ رَخَّصَ فِي «زَعَمُوا»
74
Regarding a man being asked: How did you wake up?
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يُقَالُ لَهُ: كَيْفَ أَصْبَحْتَ
75
Chapter on who disliked being stepped on from behind
‌بَابُ مَنْ كَرِهَ أَنْ يُوطَأَ عَقِبُهُ
76
Regarding a man entering his house, what he should say
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يَدْخُلُ مَنْزِلَهُ مَا يَقُولُ
77
Regarding praying for a Jew or a Christian
‌فِي الْيَهُودِيِّ وَالنَّصْرَانِيِّ يُدْعَى لَهُ
78
Regarding a man seeking permission without giving the greeting
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يَسْتَأْذِنُ وَلَا يُسَلِّمُ
79
Regarding a man being told: Enter with peace
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يُقَالُ لَهُ: ادْخُلْ بِسَلَامٍ
80
Regarding a man entering a house where there is no one
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يَدْخُلُ الْبَيْتَ لَيْسَ فِيهِ أَحَدٌ
81
Regarding a man writing: In the name of Allah for so-and-so
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يَكْتُبُ: بِسْمِ اللَّهِ لِفُلَانٍ
82
Regarding a man writing to another man, how he should write
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يَكْتُبُ إِلَى الرَّجُلِ ، كَيْفَ يَكْتُبُ
83
Regarding a man writing: As for what follows
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يَكْتُبُ: أَمَّا بَعْدُ
84
Regarding greeting people of the dhimma (non-Muslims), and who said: There is a right of companionship
‌فِي السَّلَامِ عَلَى أَهْلِ الذِّمَّةِ، وَمَنْ قَالَ: فِي الصُّحْبَةِ حَقٌّ
85
Regarding a rider greeting a pedestrian
‌فِي الرَّاكِبِ يُسَلِّمُ عَلَى الْمَاشِي
86
Regarding employing a Christian scribe
‌فِي اتِّخَاذِ كَاتِبٍ نَصْرَانِيٍّ
87
Who had a scribe and permitted employing him
‌مَنْ كَانَ لَهُ كَاتِبٌ وَرَخَّصَ فِي اتِّخَاذِهِ
88
Who used to start with himself when writing
‌مَنْ كَانَ إِذَا كَتَبَ بَدَأَ بِنَفْسِهِ
89
Regarding a man writing to another and starting with himself
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يَكْتُبُ إِلَى الرَّجُلِ فَيَبْدَأُ بِهِ
90
Regarding changing names
‌فِي تَغْيِيرِ الْأَسْمَاءِ
91
What names are disliked
‌مَا يُكْرَهُ مِنَ الْأَسْمَاءِ
92
What names are recommended
‌مَا تُسْتَحَبُّ مِنَ الْأَسْمَاءِ
93
Who permitted being called by the kunyah (nickname) Abu al-Qasim
‌مَنْ رَخَّصَ أَنْ يُكَنَّى بِأَبِي الْقَاسِمِ
94
Regarding extinguishing fires at night
‌فِي إِطْفَاءِ النَّارِ عِنْدَ الْمَبِيتِ
95
Chapter on cleaning the house and keeping it tidy and clean
‌بَابُ كَنْسِ الدَّارِ وَنَظَافَتِهَا وَالطَّرِيقِ
96
Regarding combining the Prophet's ﷺ kunyah and name
‌فِي الْجَمْعِ بَيْنَ كُنْيَةِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ وَاسْمِهِ
97
Regarding cursing animals
‌فِي لَعْنِ الْبَهِيمَةِ
98
Who recommended sitting facing the qibla
‌مَنْ كَانَ يَسْتَحِبُّ إِذَا جَلَسَ أَنْ يَجْلِسَ مُسْتَقْبِلَ الْقِبْلَةِ
99
Regarding the superiority of intellect over other qualities
‌فِي فَضْلِ الْعَقْلِ عَلَى غَيْرِهِ
100
Regarding plucking white hair
‌فِي نَتْفِ الشَّيْبِ
101
Regarding sitting between the shade and the sun
‌فِي الْقُعُودِ بَيْنَ الظِّلِّ وَالشَّمْسِ
102
Regarding a man listening to people's conversations
‌فِي الَّذِي يَسْتَمِعُ حَدِيثَ الْقَوْمِ
103
Regarding standing for long periods on an animal
‌فِي طُولِ الْوُقُوفِ عَلَى الدَّابَّةِ
104
Regarding seeking permission, how many times one should ask
‌فِي الِاسْتِئْذَانِ ، كَمْ مَرَّةً يَسْتَأْذِنُ
105
Regarding a man seeking permission from a group, whether it suffices for them
‌فِي الْقَوْمِ يَسْتَأْذِنُ مِنْهُمْ رَجُلٌ ، هَلْ يُجْزِئُهُمْ
106
Regarding sneezing, who said: Do not respond unless they praise Allah
‌فِي تَشْمِيتِ الْعَاطِسِ، مَنْ قَالَ: لَا يُشَمَّتُ حَتَّى يَحْمَدَ اللَّهَ
107
How many times sneezing should be responded to
‌كَمْ يُشَمَّتُ
108
Regarding granting permission to people of the dhimma
‌فِي الْإِذْنِ عَلَى أَهْلِ الذِّمَّةِ
109
What is disliked to say after sneezing
‌مَا يُكْرَهُ أَنْ يَقُولَ الْعَاطِسُ خَلْفَ عَطْسَتِهِ
110
A man sneezing alone, what he should say
‌الرَّجُلُ يَعْطِسُ وَحْدَهُ ، مَا يَقُولُ
111
What one should say after sneezing and what should be said to him
‌مَا يَقُولُ إِذَا عَطَسَ وَمَا يُقَالُ لَهُ
112
Permission regarding poetry
‌الرُّخْصَةُ فِي الشِّعْرِ
113
Who disliked writing 'In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful' before poetry
‌مَنْ كَرِهَ أَنْ يُكْتَبُ أَمَامَ الشِّعْرِ: بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيمِ
114
Who disliked poetry and memorizing it
‌مَنْ كَرِهَ الشِّعْرَ وَأَنْ يَعِيَهُ فِي جَوْفِهِ
115
Who disliked ambiguous speech and who liked it
‌مَنْ كَرِهَ الْمَعَارِيضَ وَمَنْ كَانَ يُحِبُّ ذَلِكَ
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What is disliked for a man to say to his brother
‌مَا يُكْرَهُ أَنْ يَقُولَ الرَّجُلُ لِأَخِيهِ
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What is disliked for a man to falsely attribute to himself
‌مَا يَكْرَهُ الرَّجُلُ أَنْ يَنْتَمِيَ إِلَيْهِ وَلَيْسَ كَذَلِكَ
118
What has been mentioned regarding seeking knowledge and teaching it
‌مَا جَاءَ فِي طَلَبِ الْعِلْمِ وَتَعْلِيمِهِ
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Regarding a man seeking knowledge to impress people and narrating it
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يَطْلُبُ الْعِلْمَ يُرِيدُ بِهِ النَّاسَ وَيُحَدِّثُ بِهِ
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Regarding traveling for the purpose of seeking knowledge
‌فِي الرِّحْلَةِ فِي طَلَبِ الْعِلْمِ
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Discussing hadith
‌تَذَاكُرُ الْحَدِيثِ
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Regarding playing dice and what has been mentioned about it
‌فِي اللَّعِبِ بِالنَّرْدِ وَمَا جَاءَ فِيهِ
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Regarding playing chess
‌فِي اللَّعِبِ بِالشِّطْرَنْجِ
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Regarding playing the game of fourteen (a board game)
‌فِي اللَّعِبِ بِأَرْبَعَةَ عَشَرَ
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Regarding children playing with walnuts
‌فِي لَعِبِ الصِّبْيَانِ بِالْجَوْزِ
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Regarding greeting those who play backgammon
‌فِي السَّلَامِ عَلَى أَصْحَابِ النَّرْدِ
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Who used to go out during the first rainfall
‌مَنْ كَانَ يَتَمَطَّرُ فِي أَوَّلِ مَطْرَةٍ
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Regarding attending storytellers' gatherings and who did so
‌فِي إِتْيَانِ الْقُصَّاصِ وَمُجَالَسَتِهِمْ وَمَنْ فَعَلَهُ
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Who disliked storytelling and spoke against it
‌مَنْ كَرِهَ الْقَصَصَ وَضَرَبَ فِيهِ
130
Regarding a man kissing another man's hand during a greeting
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يُقَبِّلُ يَدَ الرَّجُلِ عِنْدَ السَّلَامِ
131
Regarding a man belittling another man's name
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يُصَغِّرُ اسْمَ الرَّجُلِ
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Regarding covering the head and what was mentioned about it
‌التَّقَنُّعُ وَمَا ذُكِرَ فِيهِ
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Regarding a man sleeping with grime on his hands
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يَبِيتُ وَفِي يَدِهِ غَمَرٌ
134
Regarding mixing with people and opposing them
‌فِي مُخَالَطَةِ النَّاسِ وَمُخَالَفَتِهِمْ
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Regarding reverence for narrating hadith from the Messenger of Allah ﷺ
‌فِي هَيْبَةِ الْحَدِيثِ عَنْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ
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What is disliked about a man spying on another man
‌مَا كُرِهَ مِنَ اطِّلَاعِ الرَّجُلِ عَلَى الرَّجُلِ
137
Regarding deliberately lying about the Prophet ﷺ and what was mentioned about it
‌فِي تَعَمُّدِ الْكَذِبِ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ ﷺ وَمَا جَاءَ فِيهِ
138
Regarding a man being asked: Are you older or is so-and-so?
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يُسْأَلُ: أَنْتَ أَكْبَرُ أَمْ فُلَانٌ؟ مَا يَقُولُ
139
Regarding a man praising another man
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يَمْدَحُ الرَّجُلَ
140
Regarding consultation and who recommended it
‌فِي الْمَشُورَةِ مَنْ أَمَرَ بِهَا
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What was mentioned about seeking help for one's needs
‌مَا ذُكِرَ فِي طَلَبِ الْحَوَائِجِ
142
A man delivering his best speech
‌الرَّجُلُ يُخْرِجُ أَحْسَنَ حَدِيثِهِ
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Regarding speaking in Persian, who disliked it
‌فِي الْكَلَامِ بِالْفَارِسِيَّةِ مَنْ كَرِهَهُ
144
Who permitted speaking in Persian
‌مَنْ رَخَّصَ فِي الْفَارِسِيَّةِ
145
What they said about a man adopting a kunyah (nickname) before having children, and what was mentioned about it
‌مَا قَالُوا فِي الرَّجُلِ يَكْتَنِي قَبْلَ أَنْ يُولَدَ لَهُ، وَمَا جَاءَ فِيهِ
146
What type of speech is recommended
‌مَا يُسْتَحَبُّ مِنَ الْكَلَامِ
147
Who disliked reciting incantations aloud to those afflicted
‌مَنْ كَرِهَ أَنْ يُسْمِعَ الْمُبْتَلَى التَّعْوِيذَ
148
What is inappropriate for a man to pray for
‌مَا لَا يَنْبَغِي لِلرَّجُلِ أَنْ يَدْعُوَ بِهِ
149
Regarding burning books and similar things
‌فِي إِحْرَاقِ الْكُتُبِ وَنَحْوِهَا
150
Regarding a man finding a book and whether he should read it or not
‌فِي الرَّجُلِ يَجِدُ الْكِتَابَ يَقْرَؤُهُ أَمْ لَا